Sounds like I couldn't recruit her

At this point, I can't plany ANY BG at all, modded or otherwise.  And besides which, my computer(s) can't seem to get any mod to work which doesn't have that lovely G3 autoload function.  But in any case, my question is this.  Do I understand right that you have to side with the Shadow Thieves to even meet Ninde?  If so, what a shame!  Even my good characters "accidentally" side with Bhodi.  It cuts down on the number of vampires I have to fight, and the shadow thief dungeon crawl is SO much more fun, as well.

Yep, that's right. It's a part of the story, and while we probably could alter it, I'm not sure it would be as effective.

Do I understand right that you have to side with the Shadow Thieves to even meet Ninde?

Unless the version was updated since January-Febriary you can still get her even if sided with Bodhi.

Heh, that might still be the case--thanks for pointing that out, GeN1e! However, I'm not sure if the talks will all work right. From memory, they should, but I can't guarantee they will.