I've notice something strange..Is there any possibility that your gender was reverted at any stage of the game ? There's a chance of this happening if you have a party member that uses Wild Magic.
No.. no gender switching belt no wild magic user..
It's probably some "Remove gender/race requirements for romances" or similar. Just tell them to buzz off. Or edit savegame and check for variables like "Jaheiraromanceactive" or something like that. Feel free to remove them.
I checked romances they are both in value 1, I will try to delete both variables, then rest(cause that's when they start bickering) and see..
Thanks both of you
EDIT: I deleted all 4 variables Jaheira romance, jaheira romance active, Aerie romance ,aerie romance active and guess what???
I rest they started the bickering and I check the variables are re-appeared..LOL I give up..